What I wish we were taught in kindergarten

When I penned Words of Wisdom for my Sons, I wrote a section about opinions. The book was written for my children who were ages 12, 10 and 8 at the time. The point I wanted them to get was that a person’s opinion is just that, an opinion.

An opinion is defined as a judgement formed by the mind of an individual. Does that mean it is correct? Does that mean the person is absolutely right?


Touting your opinion for all to hear will serve to do one thing only. You will simply cause others to judge you based on your opinion. When it comes down to the crunch (such as at a time of election) most people already have their own opinion. And they will usually default back to it no matter what you say. Trying to influence others by boldly stating your opinion will only reap derision.

And on the subject of opinions, here is one of mine that I would like to share with you. It is my strong opinion that gender stereotypes need to be dissolved. I did say stereotypes, the notion that a person act only in one particular manner based simply on their sex. Don’t get me wrong, I did not say we are not different.

I saw this quote attributed to William Golding, Nobel Prize winner and author of Lord of the Flies. I thought at first his words were refreshing – a quick feel-good comment from a famous man about women. But, I don’t agree with it any more than I agree that men are superior.

Superior WomenSo, may I address Gender stereotypes once and for all?

Men, women are not your inferiors. Not to be oppressed, repressed, suppressed or put down in anyway.

Women we are not their equals. In some ways we may be inferior, in some ways, superior. The bottom line is we are different and we need each other. We are not opponents, we are allies. What you lack, I will supply. What I lack, I need you to supply. Let us begin to celebrate the differences instead of trying to mold others into a shape that they will never fit. I am not for gender equality any more than I am for gender inequality.

We are 2 halves of a whole and when we come together in unity, we make a great team.